Hypnosis, NLP to Overcome Masturbation Addiction...

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

Hello Gang,

I have a client who is seeking my help, he needs help with excessive masturbation, he had done it since age 13, now 38 and no medical condition, his masturbation becomes an addiction and it starts taking time away from his work, relationship, etc...

I do have so experience helping with addiction, and wanted to ask for different ideas or opinion that may have worked for you with your clients, so I can compare notes and help my client in the best way I can.

I have advised my client that his excessive masturbation can also be stress related, since stress can increase as well as decrease sexual desire. due to the fact that masturbation is linked to stress reduction, when masturbating is often used as a de-stress-or. and my client did agree that it is a de-stress-or, and that he is also really does enjoy it, only that he says It is too much.

Would love to get some feedback while I am working on my client addiction.
Respectfully, Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

[Fable Goodman]

I am wondering in what ways, and by who's standards it is excessive.
what is the frequency. (ie is it more or less than ten times a day?)
and what is the duration?

If he is at it for more than about ten minutes at a stretch, you could recommend a good (silicon based) lubricant, to prevent chaffing, and increase the pleasure.

Ok he says it is too much, but I am wondering if it is just a question of time management? or is his partner getting on his back abaout it?

Frequent masturbation (within reason and in an appropriate setting and context) is not neccesarilly a bad thing in my understanding. perhaps he is just feeling good old fashioned guilt about soemthing which is natural.

Love and hugs,

Fable

[Scott Brown]

Hi Doreen,

Masturbation is sex with someone you love. The key questions is has he got a partner and how much is enjoying himself on a daily bases? I know someone who thought giving himself a tug once a month was excessive.



Warmest Regards

Scott

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

Thank you Fable and Scott, I don't have all the answers yet, and I will make sure to get back to you when I have it.

So far your suggestions are great.

Thanks Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

[Al Whitton]

I'd shoot for
Reframing (he doesn't enjoy it enough as he does it too much. Create a once a day ritual to make it special,build excitement etc aplace that's safe and not gonna be disturbed etc.)
Go for compulsion blowout
IEMT
Parts integration
Lashings of trance!

;-)

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

Very Nice Al :0)

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht
www.HypnoCruise.com

[Al Whitton]

Additionally, have him keep a Jerk-Off Journal, writing in it every time he bangs one out. Then say it's 10 times a day, demand he does it 13 times a day (safely).
Have him do this repeatedly, with volition. Get him then to acknowledge him bringing this thing into control, albeit increasing the signal.
Then do your other stuff!

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

Humm I got it... Thanks again Al...

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

[Mr Green]

*Apparently* the acceptable average is 15 time per week.
If it's above that then I imagine he has some kind of addiction to the process, or to just feeling that he still has a purpose in life.

(I'd wear a big overcoat for the sessions.. )

He would be an excellent client for hypnosis as he sounds like a very suggestible person, maybe using NLP you can help him to realize that 'sex' to him is very healing or very giving. (in a primitive form)

Alter his to thinking that his attraction to people (in that way) is simply that he doesn't want to 'jump the bones' of everyone he sees, but he wants to 'help' all of those he see's.

Maybe having been 'rejected' by people he has regressed to this more primitive way of existing.

Just a thought.

Paul~

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

OMG Paul... I think I will be safe without wearing any big overcoat for the session, since he will not be able to do anything stupid, trust me, I had few who tried, and the moment I have noticed any unusual movement, I have given them the suggestion that now you are paralyzed. lol and I do warn them before, just in case....

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

[Mr Green]

Lol.. understandable, your lovely.

Don't paralyze me though.. my hands are firmly on the keyboard..

lol

Paul~


Doreen Cohanim C.Ht said:

OMG Paul... I think I will be safe without wearing any big overcoat for the session, since he will not be able to do anything stupid, trust me, I had few who tried, and the moment I have noticed any unusual movement, I have given them the suggestion that now you are paralyzed. lol and I do warn them before, just in case....

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht

[Henxy]

My experience with people with really high drives is that they're just not enjoying it, so they keep going; trying to recreate that early (and now elusive) experience of relief with orgasm.
One really sad case was of a chap who'd been sexually abused by his grandfather. He believed his mother (abuser's daughter) knew, but was in denial, so didn't do anything about it. He loved all his family, and liked to do the stuff with others that his granddad had done to/with him. He had an interesting moral set as a probable result- including sex with men (as a man) 'not counting as infidelity' whilst in a relationship with a woman.

[Doreen Cohanim C.Ht]

Hi Henxy,

I agree with what you said, but this guy actually says, that he does enjoy it, his excuse is that he is investing more time in masturbation then other important things, such as work, family, etc...

I am still waiting for him to get back to me with some answers, since he kept skipping some questions, and before I am going to see him for a live session, I want to make sure he is sincere, since some people act as if they want help, while they really are looking for something else, If you know what I mean, so I am waiting, and If he is going to bombard me with emails not answering all other questions, then, I am not going to see him or even to help him... and I usually know what to ask to get into the bottom line...

and when they Ignore the trick questions, then I know better not to deal with them...

Doreen Cohanim C.Ht,HBCE